Dr Piet Konings, African Studies Centre, Leiden, the Netherlands

“The essence of the book is an attempt to demonstrate how children’s life and future are seriously affected by the way family (and marriage) would be defined especially by parents, partners and other relatives. The author relates in some detail the various strategies he employed to overcome the almost insurmountable obstacles he faced as a result of such definitions, in the process defying them courageously and attempting to pursue a kind of blend of African and Canadian lifestyles. This is a captivating story. The book provides the reader with a number of useful insights in the complicated African family relations, which are otherwise difficult to acquire from standard scientific and more specifically anthropological literature.”